Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Foreign.
You're listening to the Poised Powerhouse Podcast. My name is Dr. Sita Hood and I'm obsessed with empowering women like you with practical life strategies to live authentically without compromising your wellness.
[00:00:20] Speaker B: I used to be caught up in.
[00:00:21] Speaker A: The hustle hard mentality until I learned that my quirky little traits I thought weren't that important actually turned out to be the secret sauce. I. I needed to step boldly into my purpose and create impact not only in my life, but so many amazing women around me. Organizing your schedule, launching impactful programs, redefining leadership without code switching or compromise, and stepping boldly into your God given assignment.
[00:00:52] Speaker B: Are all topics we'll discuss here.
[00:00:55] Speaker A: Think of this podcast as that simple Sunday brunch with your girls that feels so therapeutic you can't wait to get to it. But let's clarify, this is not a substitute for a relationship with a licensed therapist. All right, grab your notebook and your.
[00:01:12] Speaker B: Coffee or your tea.
[00:01:14] Speaker A: We don't discriminate over here. And let's start the show.
[00:01:22] Speaker B: Hey. Hey. Welcome back to the Poise Powerhouse Podcast. I. I am your host, Dr. Sita Hood, vision architect, licensed therapist and executive leadership consultant. I know you noticed that we took a little breaky break. Okay, girl. Woo. That escalated rather quickly. But how can I be teaching you about not hustling through chaos if I am hustling through chaos?
So what happened is summertime and I did a post about this on my social media was called like why I disappear in the summertime and why you might disappear too. There was a different need that I was having and it all ties back to, like me being in a grief season without knowing it. Some of you may know that my father passed away in the summertime. So summertime is challenging for me sometimes. Some years it hits me harder than others. And I think when the grief was like creeping up on me, I wasn't really recognizing it hitting me. And for those of y' all that don't know, Google, like, what a grief period is, if you are unfamiliar with that and this might be happening to you as well, where you can't understand why you're getting sad or when something happens and you were so motivated and now all of a sudden you've lost motivation and it's a huge struggle and you can't really force yourself or pull fool yourself into doing the thing that you were so excited about doing, you might be caught in a very similar trap that I was when the summer first started. So that's what happened. That's where I was. But we back. We back. We here. And I know that you being here as a member of my tribe, I know that it was totally acceptable and okay for me to rest in that space. And I trust that you've been doing well. I missed you, boo. I. I really did.
Comment below and tell me what it is that you've been doing. If you're watching this on YouTube, if you are listening to this episode, DM me on Instagram or tag me in a post or something, bookie, let me know what you've been up to lately. I have been drinking iced coffee, of course, during the day, but something that I started to drink is golden milk or haldi. Dude. I hope that I said that right and did not disrespect anybody's culture because that drink is BAE for nighttime.
And I think that it perfectly describes how I've been feeling grounded, but a little bit tender, you know, because growth does not happen in this cute little container that is uncontaminated by life. Like, that's not how it goes. Life interferes and growth is painful and there can be beautiful moments mixed in with those painful moments. And so that kind of illustrates where I've been. But let me tell you something, girl. Let me. Let me tell you something that's kind of leaning into this episode one of these days. Like last month, by the time you see this, the house was really quiet. Cuz, like also another reason I've been struggling. My kids at home, girl.
My kids at home.
And if you got kids, then you already know, like that's literally all I need to say. But if you don't have kids, then you know how much of a detour they can make your day take.
And they are precious gifts from the Lord. We love having them.
But also they be rerouting your plans.
They do.
But this particular time, the house was super quiet cuz they were gone.
But it was a little bit too quiet. Was a little bit too quiet, girl. And even though I was like finally alone, something about that stillness was making my skin itch, you know, I wanted to move, I wanted to clean, I wanted to scroll, I wanted to do something. I was feeling very unsatisfied. And that's when it hit me that I was still living in flight mode. Listen, that song, She's a runner, she's a track star.
One thing about it, two things for certain, I'm going to run. Okay? If it feels too quiet, if it feels too tender, if it feels too real, baby, I will straight up sprint into busyness just to avoid the Silence. And the truth is, you know, for a long time, I didn't feel safe in silence. Stillness felt like exposure. Like if I stopped moving, all the stuff that I've been pushing down would start to talk back.
And even now, baby girl, that urge to run still creeps in when life gets soft.
So in this episode, we are going to unpack what it really means to feel safe. Not just physically safe, but emotionally and spiritually safe as well. So if you've built a life that looks really beautiful on the outside, but it still feels really shaky on the inside, baby, this episode is for you. Okay, Come on, let's get into it. Hey, Boo. If this episode is stirring something up in your spirit and you are ready to start building a life that actually feels like peace, don't forget to grab the free aligned ambition bundle. That's right, Boo. It's totally free and packed with powerful resources to help you ground, reset, and move with intention. Hit the link in the show notes and grab yours today.
Let's keep it a Honda, Boo, because that's the only way we know how to be on this podcast. Right? We have been sold a version of Safety that is completely external.
And I want to explain what I mean when I say this. We think once I hit that income level, you fill in the blank of what your income level is. Once I get that office with that window. Yes. Once I finally organize my schedule or once I find the right planner, then I'll feel safe. Then I'll feel free enough to exhale. Here's the truth, and I'm gonna give it to you real soft. Like safety ain't a milestone.
Safety is a state of being.
You can have the curated calendar, the beautiful home, the blessings that you prayed for, and you can still feel anxious. You could still feel tight in your chest or like you're bracing for something to go wrong. For me, it's like this pressure that builds up in my throat. Like, you know, when you need to release that cry, when you need to release that sob. And why?
It's because many of us have never actually felt what it's like to just be.
We have spent years performing over functioning, over explaining, over committing. Because deep down, we believe that our worth was connected to our usefulness. And then when we try to sit still, we. When we try to rest, baby, it feels like the world is going to explode. It feels like a rebellion. It feels like we're breaking some invisible rule because we not out here grinding. We think that we're being lazy when really we're just Exhausted. And we see it everywhere. Black women are tired, women are tired, mothers are tired. We're just exhausted. And I'm going to say this one a little bit loud. I'm gonna say this one with my chest for the people in the back. If your success makes you anxious, it's not sustainable, okay? It's not sustainable. You don't need another productivity hack, boo. You need permission to feel safe without the performance.
And that's what we're reclaiming today.
So let's break it down all the way. Because safety is not just about doors with locks or alarm systems or money in a bank. It's so much deeper than multi layered. It's sacred. And most of us have never paused long enough to examine what true safety feels like for us. Or we've never been taught what true soul deep safety even feels like. Here's what I've learned when it comes to emotional safety. Can you be honest about how you're feeling without fixing, without faking and without filtering?
Can you? Emotional safety is being able to say I'm not okay without instantly rushing to fix it, without faking a smile or filtering the truth so that it feels more palatable to other people. It's knowing that you can cry, that you can rage, that you can question or even grieve and still be worthy of love. That people are not judging you or expecting more from you than you have the capacity to give.
It's that sacred whisper that says, you don't have to be strong right now, boo.
You can just be honest and that's good enough. You can rest here and that's good enough. Because healing can't happen if we keep pretending like we're fine when we're really falling apart. Spiritual safety, do you know that you're held? Do you trust that you're healed even when you're not hustling?
Spiritual safety, that right there is the true trust fall, okay? It's knowing that God is holding you. Not because you're doing everything right, but because God already made provision before you even knew what to pray for. Like, if we actually wrap our brains around that. Before you approached or encountered this struggle, before you got to this level, when you were praying to get to this level, the Lord already knew that you would need provision for this moment right here.
So spiritual safety is trusting that God has already created exactly what you need in this moment. Is choosing surrender over striving. Is choosing to rest on the Sabbath over hustling, is choosing to believe that even if I rest, God is still working and don't get caught up in that trap. Faith without works is dead. Like, yes, that's very much true, but let's put some context in it. Because God created, and then on the seventh day, he rested. That was a framework, that was a model for us. And that, my love, is freedom. Relational safety. Are you surrounded by people who honor your nose as much as they honor your yes? That's a real question. Maybe you need to journal about that. Maybe the answer already hit your spirit before I finish the question. But relational safety means that you do not have to shrink, code switch, or censor your softness in order to be accepted. It's having people in your life who honor your no just as much as they honor your yes. It's friendship that does not punish you for enforcing your boundaries, and love that doesn't require your exhaustion just to be valid. And you deserve to be in rooms where you don't have to perform to belong, Period.
That's it. That's all. So I want to offer you a reframe today. I want to offer you the reframe. That safety is not about perfection, but about regulation.
It is your nervous system breathing deep and saying, okay, we. We good. We good here. We got this. It's okay. Not because life is perfect, but because you are no longer abandoning yourself to keep up with somebody else's expectations for you. That's what true safety feels like. Let's go ahead and cancel this cultural lie right now. Rest ain't a reward, and rhythm ain't a luxury, okay? They are life systems. They are divine strategies for sustainable living. God created us to need rest for. For a reason. Hustle culture taught us that rest has to be earned, that we have to finish everything first because taking a break means falling behind, and that if we're not exhausted, we must not be doing enough. And that is a lie. I have fallen into that trap so much. I am so grateful to be exactly where I am in life. But that philosophy that got me here of just finish it, just finish it, just finish it, finish it, finish it, finish it, finish it. Push through, hustle through, grind down until there's nothing left and you can rest after, baby, that's not gonna serve me, okay? Because first of all, first of all, first of all, first of all, baby, this body right here was created and birthed in the 80s, okay?
And with that being the case, honey, the body just ain't doing what it did way back when, so I don't even want to carry up that same rhythm. So hustle culture taught us to do that. But inside of the Hustle Rehab, we flip that script completely. I mean, we put it on his head. Okay. We believe in rhythms, not rigid routines. We believe that rest is preparation, not procrastination. So you not lazy. It's not, let me get my little lazy butt up. We believe that your nervous system deserves to exhale regularly, which is why we have this cadence of a week being seven days. And we're called to rest on those weekend days. And that's why we don't just tell you inside of the Hustle Rehab to rest. We teach you how to rest. So one of the ways that we teach you how to rest is to calibrate your energy with the 5D alignment method so that you're not pouring from a place of depletion. Another way is we teach you to build safety soft, sacred morning and evening rituals using our reset rituals framework, so that you start and end your day with intention, not anxiety. Another thing we do is to weave selah moments into your day. Those pauses that allow you to soften, to soothe, and to surrender, even in the middle of a full calendar. Or why? You were not created to perform. You were created to be fully present. And presence requires practice. That is the heartbeat of the Hustle Rehab, teaching you how to return to yourself in small, sacred ways until peace is not a weekend escape. It is truly part of your lifestyle.
[00:16:37] Speaker A: You know those little things that just.
[00:16:39] Speaker B: Nourish your heart, mind, and soul?
[00:16:42] Speaker A: Those little gems dropped in your week that make all the difference in your day but are seemingly unimportant, like the person who went out of their way to do something nice for you, or that amazing sermon on YouTube that just hit exactly like you needed it to. Well, I'm sharing my weekly nourishment with you. And if there's something that nourished you this week, I'd love to hear about it. By tagging me on Instagram and @Doctor Cetahood, or dropping a comment underneath this episode. Here we go.
[00:17:22] Speaker C: Welcome back for another weekly nourishment. This week's soul reminder is the Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. Psalm 23:1. You don't have to fight for what's already yours.
Safety isn't something that you earn. It's something you receive. Let that sit with you this week. Maybe journal on it and see what comes up for you.
[00:17:47] Speaker B: Boo. If you are nodding your head yes right now, I want you to hear me. You are not crazy. You are not broken, and you are definitely not the only one who feels this way. Your nervous system is exhausted from trying to earn what what God already gave you. Peace, presence, protection. And if you're ready to start rebuilding your rhythms, aligning your energy and reclaiming safety from the inside out, come join the email list and grab the free aligned ambition bundle because I promise, Boo, your journey starts there.
Success. That makes you scared, ain't it? Okay, that's not what we going for in 2025. We are choosing softness. We're choosing safety. We're choosing sacred. And in 2025, with everything that's going on, we need it. So let's build a life that feels like home again, that feels like a breath of fresh air that we don't need vacations from. I'll see you next week, Boo. And if you enjoyed today's episode, you already know. Share the love. Share with your mama, share with your auntie, share with your best friend. Then head on over to Apple Podcast and leave us a five star review. Reviews help the podcast to grow. Well, that's all I have for you this week. I'll see you out in these social media streets. Bye.
